”A man and woman joined in matrimony become partners in a divine undertaking: Through the act of procreation, God’s gift is accepted and a new life opens to the future.” ~Pope John Paul II in his encyclical Evangelium Vitae, no. 43
Although, not all of us have the ability to conceive or our challenges are many, we must embrace Jesus throughout. What has helped me is being a part of the Carmelite community, it is good to find community support through the cross. We are like soldiers of faith who are enduring the imperfections of this world. Our answers to the question of pain and emotional suffering is to go to Our Lord in all of our weakness and ask for His guidance. This is a challenge and depending on your health and situation, it may take a while to reach a place of peace. Continue to pray, and seek God’s will for your marriage, and try to find joy in the little things of life.
As the Catechism states below, our openness to life does not always give us children but we can find ways of helping those God sends our way that He calls us to adopt spiritually. Like the pain that St. Paul talks about a thorn in the flesh this is what we all endure in our cross, but let me tell you when we embrace it with Love then you will find the answers…
2 Cor. 12:8-10 Three times I begged the Lord about this, that it might leave me, but he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for power is made perfect in weakness.” I will rather boast most gladly of my weaknesses, in order that the power of Christ may dwell with me. Therefore, I am content with weaknesses, insults, hardships, persecutions, and constraints, for the sake of Christ; for when I am weak, then I am strong.
Your peace may come and go throughout your life but relying on Our Lord is the answer that will get you through all of the many challenges of married life. Have peace and hope and you will be free.
Catechism of the Catholic Church
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The Gospel shows that physical sterility is not an absolute evil. Spouses who still suffer from infertility after exhausting legitimate medical procedures should unite themselves with the Lord’s Cross, the source of all spiritual fecundity. They can give expression to their generosity by adopting abandoned children or performing demanding services for others.
Truly, you will find that all your answers that you seek are within Holy Mother Church. As God spoke to David “Be still and know that I am God” Psalm 46:10.
